tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14938859.post7969840788979994195..comments2023-06-14T04:59:45.305-07:00Comments on maristar: Do you CHOOSE your life?Mary-Suehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06123698151214413692noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14938859.post-59075048702853022122007-05-26T23:18:00.000-07:002007-05-26T23:18:00.000-07:00Hey, dear friend, sometimes it is hard with young ...Hey, dear friend, sometimes it is hard with young children. It really is. Wonderful and all that but really completely demanding a lot of the time. So, my tribal sister, lets BE a tribe. Really. More than talking. You are tribe to me, let me be tribe to you!Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07592576885721685076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14938859.post-85398104665606839922007-05-26T10:51:00.000-07:002007-05-26T10:51:00.000-07:00Phew - much food for thought. When I started read...Phew - much food for thought. When I started reading your post, I found myself agreeing with you about getting up in the night with the baby - after all, you are the one with the breasts! With my first child, I'd sit up in bed, breastfeeding in the middle of the night, tearfully looking at the clock and thinking how much sleep I was missing out on. With the second and third children, they were in our bed from the start and nursing them was simple and we quickly fell asleep again. When they were older and didn't need nursing, it was usually still me who dealt with any night-time sickness. Now, our boys are older and rarely need us during the night, but if they did it would probably be my husband who'd hear them because he's a light sleeper and has super-sharp hearing!<BR/><BR/>I do feel like my husband and I have a true partnership but this doesn't mean that we share every job. Not so long ago, he surprised me with a rare expression of his feelings around his relationship with the children. He felt like he wasn't needed, wasn't appreciated - I was stunned to hear him say that, and I realised that it's not just women who have these feelings, it's just that we have our sisters or friends with whom we can let it all out and men often don't have that outlet. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes I feel like I'm taken for granted when I'm doing the dishes or cleaning up another mess, especially when it's evening and the kids might head off outside to play after dinner, and husband has gone off to read his emails. But then I remember that while he has been at work for 10 hours I may have been enjoying a few hours at the park, talking to my friends while the kids play, or I may have done some knitting and been drinking tea while he was driving in heavy traffic to get to his next job, and I realise I don't have it so bad after all.<BR/><BR/>I am glad that he is earning enough that I don't feel that I have to go out to work. I have a mature, responsible, hardworking husband with whom I have a loving, humorous, teasing relationship, and I remind myself that he's been able to put up with me for the last 20 years, and g*d knows I'm not perfect!!! :o)<BR/><BR/>I don't feel disconnected. Having the friendship and support of like-minded women, who are really my extended family now, with my own family being thousands of miles away, has been my lifesaver. <BR/><BR/>Yes, I sometimes feel like it would be really nice to have a family home-based business that all of us could contribute to, and my husband would probably prefer not be an employee with only 2 weeks vacation time a year, and one day I might like to run a yarn store or something, but right now we divide up the chores according to our skills and we have food on the table and a roof over our heads and life really is good. <BR/><BR/>Wow, you really got me going there. Writing this has made me count my blessings. Thanks for your thoughtful post, Mary Sue.Nicolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17550530825314280346noreply@blogger.com